No doubt breakups can be painful. Especially when you lose
something that mattered to you. Being heartbroken can make you feel worthless
and hopeless. It is natural to feel sad and cry about past hurts. It gives you
the permission to express the hurt, anger and sadness. Most people want to
brood over the misery over and over again. It is a process to go through and
not end on it. This must be stopped as it heads no way. Put an end to this
unhealthy pain. Dr Phil says ‘’It is vital to put the pain behind and move on
with your life. Otherwise, you’ll give way for people to hurt you’’. It is
unnecessary for you to overreact, fight or embarrass yourself. Learn from the
experience .This is about you and not the other person. Time heals but it takes our effort to speed
up the process. Embrace this as an opportunity for a better you to emerge.
Here are ways you can get over the hurts:
DETACH FROM THE CAUSE: Detach yourself from whom or what has
caused the heart break. Remove memories of how hurt you were or how your heart
was broken. Do this by removing pictures, letters, messages or anything that
would cause you to make reference to the person. Disconnect from social
networks- this way you won’t see anything that would remind you of the
person(s) who broke your heart. Try to avoid possible places where you can see
him or her. Put away the music that reminds you of the past. Stop talking about
the person or the event that happened.
GIVE YOURSELF A NEW LIFE: It is time to give yourself a new life
and new environment to exhale. Fall in love with you. Try something new. Take
up a new activity. Try something new e.g. take a course or rearrange your house
(try new designs or decorations). Learn new skill. Eat healthy. Exercise. Go on
a vacation. Meet new people. Ensure you spend enough with and for yourself.
This will help you discover a lot about yourself that you never knew.
WORK ON YOUR INSIDE:: Healing starts from within. It is time
to change your thought pattern. Meditate on the beautiful things of life. Focus
on your strengths. This will flood your heart with rays of hope.
ENGAGE YOURSELF: Get busy with positive things. Study and read articles, books or listen and watch videos on motivation. This will help you get back on the right track and help you stay focused.
The best way i think to take care of a lost love or heart break is to start with putting God first ,then you can now face your fears ,cos it comes fears, of whats next how can I carry on questions within,it can kill you if you don't handle it the right way it can bring sickness to the body emotional disother is already sickness on it own,but to start with dealing with it use God first attache urself with the word of God,is only does who don't know God suffer more. and then drop your ego most times it is the course of it.
ReplyDelete