7 THINGS A LADY SHOULD LOOK OUT FOR IN A PROSPECTIVE HUSBAND

I read a message saying ‘’A wedding ring is the smallest handcuff ever made. Choose your prison mate carefully and sentence yourself wisely’’. This made me laugh initially. When I read it over again, it made more sense. Unfortunately, due to desperation most ladies have thrown caution to the wind in the issue of getting a life partner. Truth be told, men are never careless about what to look out for in a woman they intend to spend the rest of their lives with. Why then is the reverse the case for the ladies? No one enters an institution without doing a background check on that institution. You will want to find out if you will fit into what they want, if they can offer what you intend for and every other thing there is to know. That same thing applies in getting a partner you intend to spend your life with.

Here are 7 checklists before saying ‘’I do’’.

HIS DREAMS:  This is an assurance of your security. You need to know where you are going with him and if it will favour you. It shows you if he has the propensity for success. It also aids you in evaluating his character.

HIS EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE: You need to know if he has empathy, wise counsel etc. How he reacts when he is angry or bitter? How he reacts when he is excited? How he criticizes (whether constructive or destructive)?

HIS SPIRITUAL STATE: This is the pivot on which other reasons must find base. It determines love unconditionally. Who does he look up to? Are you spiritually compatible? Two people with different lords cannot call on one Lord.

HIS FINANCIAL WORTH/TARGET: This will tell you if he is responsible. You need to know his financial plans and goal. He does not have to be rich but must work to be paid.

HIS VALUES: This is a pointer of what his future will be like. Tell me your values and I will tell you where you are headed. Difference in value is a seat of conflict.

HIS FAMILY: Does he regard his family? How does he treat his parents and siblings? This will give you a clue on how he will treat you? What kind of family are you going into? What are they known for? Because when you get married you become a member of the family and you are going to be identified with who they are and what they do?

HIS ROLE IN YOUR LIFE/CAREER: You have to know if he is excited about you as a person, your vision, ambition and career. If he is excited about these, then be sure that he will encourage and support you all the way.

HEALTH STATUS: A marriage can be dissolved by not having pre-information on health matters. What is his genotype and blood group? Do they have hereditary sickness? Do they have cases of mental illness in their family?