7 GREATEST NEEDS OF A MAN!

What do men really need from women? A lot of women are asking this question. I get series of messages on this. The desire of every woman is to keep her man especially in this era where men head dey touch…they can just jilt you at any time and you will be wondering where you got it all wrong. With this high rate of divorce and broken relationships…a babe have got to do what she’s got do oh. But sometimes, it’s not our fault but let’s to do the needful…like we say ‘’do the best and leave the rest for God’’. Wetin person go do?

HAVE YOU ASKED YOURSELF WHY?

We use ‘why’ when we want to find out the reason something happened or is happening and to know how to apply wisdom in addressing the issues.

WHY WON’T MY BABY SUCK?

Believe me…I know that feeling... when your baby rejects your breast milk. It can be a very disturbing moment for mothers and some take it very personal. In most cases, breast refusals are temporary and could vary with the health or stage in development of the child at that time. It is important to know why your baby won’t suck and know what to do to encourage your baby to suckle.

Before getting worried over your baby’s refusal to suck, quickly check the number of feeds your baby have had or is completely refusing in a day. Check nappies if wet as this can cause discomfort for the child  and also check the number of wet nappies in 24 hours because urine and stool tells a lot about what is going on inside your baby’s body.

7 LEFT-OVER INGREDIENTS FOR CHRISTMAS FOR A GLOWING FACE

Every woman wants that charming look all the time but the stress of Christmas can mess up the look on your face…you wouldn’t want that soiled look on your pictures or before your guests. You may not find the time to visit the spa or just maybe they have also gone on break. Yippee…nature has got it! You can do those facials with the left over ingredients from your kitchen.

8 FOODS THAT CAN MAKE YOUR MAN ROCK IN BED

Babes, you know how we like it…so much actions…the kind that when he is done with you, you give him a salute. You find yourself giggling, smiling, chuckling and making all that ‘you-rock-man’ moves. Yea! We really want the joystick to give us joy. No woman wants a one-minute man or a man who is dull in bed.

ALL I WANT FOR CHRISTMAS IS YOU!

Tis the season to be jolly!

Christmas comes with this unexplainable euphoria. Words fail me as I cannot find the right words to express the joy I feel within. With few hours to Christmas, let’s take out time to reminisce- the reason for the season.

All I want this Christmas is you! Your smiles, your health, your wealth and your prosperity are important to me. My prayer is that you will enjoy all the ’goodies’ of life.

May the spirit of Christmas fill your lives with love, joy, peace and may all your dreams come true as you experience a WHITE Christmas.

MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!                                                           

THE LAST RITUAL...

The festive season is at its peak as businesses are shutting down, last shopping is being done and beehives of activities all around as the year packs its bag. Let’s not close the box without strapping its content. It’s that solemn moment when you look around to ensure you are leaving nothing out before closing the box. Let’s perform the last ritual as we celebrate this season…the ritual of forgiveness. Yes! It is a ritual performed with the aim of finding peace of mind, enhancing our spiritual growth and living life to the fullest. It’s time to let go of all the hurts. Unforgiveness can only ruin our health and hold us back from all the good we might desire, achieve and experience. One of the qualities of the strong is the ability to forgive. It is a divine attribute. But we find it difficult to exercise due to the depth of the harm done or extent of the pain felt, most especially, when we are betrayed with a kiss(from loved one).

MONSTER IN-LAW... CAN I HAVE MY PEACE?

It was an intense prayer session that evening in our room… my roommates and I back then in the school hostel. We organized a ‘thunder and fire’ prayer session against our future mother in-laws and any wicked treatments attack from them. Ngozi rounded off the prayers by inviting the Holy ghost to slay our future mother in-laws like in the days of Egypt when the angel of death visited. Yes! We wanted them dead before we got married. One will say we were been childish and stupid but we were guarding ourselves, in the way we knew best as at then, against any and every future attacks from our prospective mother in-law.

OUR PEARLDIVA...THE ASTONISHING CEO OF DONUTSBYIWA

Our Pearldiva is one whose dynamism is mind-blowing. The ''go-getter'' has surprised a lot of people by being who she wants to be when she wants to be and we are pleased by what this sales expert has done with her life choices. Her firm belief for success makes her stop at nothing to attain her set goals. Iwaomo tells us how it all began and how she has managed to constantly re-invent herself.

WHAT DO THEY HAVE TO SAY ABOUT YOUR BATHROOM?

It was going to drop on my panties as I have held it for four hours. Yeah! My bladder couldn’t hold it anymore. I got to a client’s house and asked to use their ‘ladies’. A lady led me but when we got to door she asked me to please hold while she checked the condition of the bathroom.  ‘You are wasting time’ I thought aloud as I imagined myself ‘peeing’ into a small bucket I saw at the corner of the door. That’s it! She finally came out and I rushed in. My dearest readers, when I saw the bathroom I suddenly felt my bladder expanding to accommodate the pressure of the urine. I ran out of the bathroom, like I had seen a monster, to join my colleagues that I came with. Of course, I saw monsters in there. Words failed me as I could not describe what I saw in there. It got me thinking- where is the woman in the house? What does she do or what has she been doing? What exactly did that lady do when she went in to check the condition of the bathroom? Are they not scared of ‘toilet infections’? What will be going through her husband’s head? Even if she wasn’t expecting any guest, how could she leave her bathroom in that state?

TONTO DIKE GOT A PRADO...WHAT DID YOU GET?

I was ‘wowed’ when I looked at Tonto Dike’s BBM channel. Don’t mind me.  I do that like every hour because she has got inspiring stuffs there. But yesterday’s own gave me a rude shock. I saw this ‘wicked’ Prado Jeep (Brand new Prado 2016). As a jeep freak, I zoomed the picture of the ‘machine’ because to me, it looked too beautiful to be called a car. ‘’OMG! This small girl will now roll with this machine’’ that drummed in my head. Yes! Her husband gave it to her as a Christmas gift. I scrolled down to read her message. She wrote ‘’Thanks to my KINGKONG for blessing me with an official car… God bless you my guy’’. I went speechless and then muttered ‘’official car as a wife or…’’. Honestly, I am happy for her because her husband found her worthy to deserve this luxurious gift as he wrote ‘’Happy wife you make me’’.

OUR FIRST PEARLDIVA...THE DELECTABLE CEO OF TRUE IDENTITY POVERTY ALLEVIATION INITIATIVE

It is an honour to have our very first guest here. She is best described as ''beauty with big brain''. The delectable lady who is the brain behind the Non-profit Organization- True Identity Poverty Alleviation Initiative. She tells us the reason she birthed the organization and describes her person as been an unshakable optimist. Having craved for love as a growing child after her parents separated, the light-skinned diva still emits love through a bruised heart. Her passion to serve is simply amazing and unimaginable. 

In this exclusive interview, the passionate damsel tells on her career, family and passion.

THE TIGHTER…THE SWEETER

The first time I heard this phrase, I was wondering what was tight and what was sweet. Some guy explained in detail what it meant and I was amazed. It is no secret that men prefer tighter women for sexual intercourse. They want to feel the grip of their woman’s V-spot. This gives them some sort of pleasure when they feel the vaginal walls contracting against their penis.

30 RULES FOR GODLY WOMEN

1. Never raise your voice for any reason at your husband. It’s a sign of disrespect. (Proverbs 15:1).

2. Don't expose your husband's weaknesses to your family and friends. It will bounce back at you.    You are each other's keeper. (Ephesians 5:12).

3. Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your husband; you never know how your husband will interpret them. Defensive women don't have a happy home. (Proverbs 15:13)

4. Never compare your husband to other men; you've no idea what their life is all about. If you attack his Ego, his Love for you will diminish.

5. Never ill treat your husband's friends because you don't like them, the person who's supposed to get rid of them is your husband. (Proverbs 11:22)

6. Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else. Do your duties. (Genesis 2:24)

7. Never assign anyone to give attention to your husband, people may do everything else but your husband is your own responsibility. (Ephesians 5:33)

8. Never blame your husband if he comes back home empty handed. Rather encourage him.  (Deuteronomy 3:28)

9. Never be a wasteful wife, your husband's sweat is too precious to be wasted.

10. Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your husband sex. You must give it to him how he wants it. Sex is very important to men, if you keep denying him; it is a matter of time before another woman takes over the duty. No man can withstand sex starvation for too long (even the anointed ones) (SOS 7:12)

11. Never compare your husband to your one time sex mate in bedroom, or an Ex-lover. Your home may never recover from it if you do. (SOS 5:9)

12. Never answer for your husband in public opinion polls, let him handle what is directed to him although he may answer for you in public opinion polls.(Proverbs 31:23)

13. Never shout or challenge your husband in front of children. Wise Women don't do that.  (Ephesians 4:31)

14. Don't forget to check the smartness of your husband before he checks out. (Proverbs 12:4)

15. Never allow your friends to be too close to your husband.

5 WAYS TO STAY HEALTHY WHEN YOU SPEND YOUR LIFE IN THE OFFICE

The office is where we perform our respect jobs to generate income that will cater for our basic and varying individual needs. However, in the course of carrying out our job functions, work-related stress can be induced as a result of long hours at the office, heavy work-load, job insecurity and conflicts with bosses and co-workers, tight deadlines and harassment just to mention a few. These work-related stresses come with signs such as depression, anxiety, sleeping difficulties, a drop in work performance, fatigue, headaches, irritability, aggression and increased sick days.

It is very important to stay healthy when you spend long hours in the office so you can make more money. Stay healthy by taking good care of yourself and these will help you out:

WHAT'S PEARLS MAGAZINE ALL ABOUT?

A self-improvement magazine guided by a passion for personal growth with its focus on women. It has different approaches to personal development and it is filled with advice on self-esteem, motivation, focus, confidence, love and relationship, health and style. It also brings inspiration to better understand your world and bring answers to the silent issues of the heart. It works toward renewing your mind and body and channel positivism into the world at large.

8 WAYS YOU CAN BE A PRAWN STAR

No one can take that away from me! I love food. You will always find recipe books in my library. I subscribed to so many food channels on my mobile phone. Always in front of TV tuning to food channels on local and cable TV. On my computer, you'll see pictures of food littered on my screen. Practically, I mess up my kitchen every other day trying out what i had seen, learnt or imagined. Since last year, I have been nudging for seafood after I went for a dinner date with a friend. Whoa! This is actually delicious. Please forgive my 'mumu' as I have always judged seafood, from childhood, with the sight and taste of crayfish. And mom won't help matters with the eat-it-so-that-you-will-grow-well sermon. So I grudgingly had my meals with the annoying taste of crayfish and was waiting anxiously for when I will grow up to have my freedom from this her crayfish matter.

10 TIPS TO BECOMING A RESILIENT WOMAN

When the going gets tough, only the tough (resilient) gets going. Change is unavoidable. As humans, we try to fight change especially when it comes in the form of challenges, stresses or adversities. But when we see challenges as a nerve end then it becomes difficult to overcome. People respond differently to an agonizing or stressful life events but we need to pull through these disturbing moments as they. Resilience is what gives us the ability to manage or survive these difficult situations that come with change and also to learn, grow and thrive in it. It allows you to become better rather than bitter after a challenge or set-back.

Resilience proceeds from self-belief and it is not a trait that people are born with. It is learnt and developed by and in anyone because it involves thoughts- the way you think, behaviours- your way of behaving and actions- how you do what you do.  To be a resilient woman  you need to have:

RESPECT... YOUR MAN’S INTERPRETATION OF LOVE

Men get their confidence and self esteem from their career and achievements but the woman remains the sole amplifier of his self esteem. Every man desperately desire respect from their women which is their interpretation of love and are looking for a secure and confident lady who will respect them. Dr Mike Murdock said '' Men do not marry a woman because of her beauty; they marry a woman because of how they 'feel' in her presence. Men have ego and that ego needs to feel good by being massaged. A man's ego puts up a feeling of satisfaction in him as a man. Amazingly, most men will choose respect over love. ‘’Men would rather feel alone and unloved than inadequate and disrespectful’’ says Shaunti Feldhalm based on a research she carried out. It is a lot easier to respect a man you love and want. Respect him the way you want to be respected. 

7 THINGS A LADY SHOULD LOOK OUT FOR IN A PROSPECTIVE HUSBAND

I read a message saying ‘’A wedding ring is the smallest handcuff ever made. Choose your prison mate carefully and sentence yourself wisely’’. This made me laugh initially. When I read it over again, it made more sense. Unfortunately, due to desperation most ladies have thrown caution to the wind in the issue of getting a life partner. Truth be told, men are never careless about what to look out for in a woman they intend to spend the rest of their lives with. Why then is the reverse the case for the ladies? No one enters an institution without doing a background check on that institution. You will want to find out if you will fit into what they want, if they can offer what you intend for and every other thing there is to know. That same thing applies in getting a partner you intend to spend your life with.

KNOW WHAT YOUR VAGINAL DISCHARGE IS SAYING?

Every woman experiences a discharge of mucus from their vagina. The vagina acts a bridge between  the uterus to the outside world.

The glands inside the vagina and cervix produces fluids that cleanse, protect and regulate it by carrying away bacteria, dead cells and maintaining the PH balance. The vaginal environment is acidic and which is made by healthy bacteria that prevents infections from happening.

HEAL THY WOUND!!! 4 WAYS TO GET OVER HEART BREAK

No doubt breakups can be painful. Especially when you lose something that mattered to you. Being heartbroken can make you feel worthless and hopeless. It is natural to feel sad and cry about past hurts. It gives you the permission to express the hurt, anger and sadness. Most people want to brood over the misery over and over again. It is a process to go through and not end on it. This must be stopped as it heads no way. Put an end to this unhealthy pain. Dr Phil says ‘’It is vital to put the pain behind and move on with your life. Otherwise, you’ll give way for people to hurt you’’. It is unnecessary for you to overreact, fight or embarrass yourself. Learn from the experience .This is about you and not the other person.  Time heals but it takes our effort to speed up the process. Embrace this as an opportunity for a better you to emerge.

4 NATURAL WAYS TO STOP YOUR BREAST FROM SAGGING

Firmness of the breast is very important to women especially the nursing mothers.  Every woman wish her breast size would remain the way it was in their tweens. As women we want to remain forever young and have that pointing-to-your-face kind of breast because it boosts her appearance and gives her a confident look. Unfortunately,it is usually not so because as a woman progresses in age the breast is likely going to lose its suppleness and elasticity causing it to sag down. Certain factors can also cause a woman to develop saggy breast at a very young age and they are childbirth, breastfeeding, nutritional deficiencies, improper care, medical ailment like breast cancer( in which the cells that supports the breast are weakened), negligence, wrong sized bras, excessive consumption of nicotine, alcohol and carbonated beverages (which causes premature aging on the skin and weakens the cellular structure).

5 WAYS COUPLES CAN FACE THE HOLIDAY SEASON AS A TEAM

Holidays like christmas usually come with so much joy but accompanied with stress too. As a couple, how you manage the stress can either make you more united as a team or tear you apart.

If you and your partner are finding it hard to face the holidays together, here are 5 ways you can get direction on how to work together rather than provoking each other.

4 RULES TO OBSERVE WHEN APPLYING A PERFUME

Perfume or cologne is one of the major fashion accessories many 'fashion freaks' apply today in order to enhance their looks and smell great. Certainly,you will  smell good all the day when you apply quality perfume or cologne but there are you must follow to get the best from it. Most people believe that by making wet their clothe or body with the perfume they will smell great the whole day. This is actually not the case. Yes, you will smell good but the fragrance will stay longer on your body if you abide by these rules.

NEETU SARKAR...THE FORMER CHILD BRIDE WHO ESCAPED POVERTY&STIGMA TO BECOME A NATIONAL WRESTLING CHAMP

When we hear stories out of India, they are often the kind featuring some kind of gender violence, oppression and inequality, especially in relation to women and children. Granted, there are some major injustices being overlooked in a country of over 1 billion people, and we should be vigilant to understand that gender equality is not going to be reached by ignoring a problem or dumbing down its existence. In many cases, problems have to be tackled head on. That is exactly what one Indian woman has done and has managed to give herself the gift of life that society was not able to.

CHAPPED LIPS? 8 WAYS TO AVOID IT

Your lips are among the most expressive parts of your body. Dry and chapped lips are not what you would want anyone to see because it’s unattractive. It can also be painful. Dry weather, dehydration, drugs, fever, nasal allergies, smoking, deficiencies of certain nutrients, and frequent exposure to sun can cause your lips to chap. Also, beware of what you put on your lips. Certain lipsticks, lip dyes or lip flavours that can cause reaction especially one that contains alcohol which leads to lips drying out. Toothpaste and very spicy foods can irritate the lips. Citrus fruits, when they come in contact with the lips, can contribute to your chapped lips. Ensure your body is not deficient in B Vitamins, iron and essential fatty acids because deficiencies of these can cause scaling of the lips and cracking of lip corners.

Here are ways to prevent chapped lips: